RESPONSIBLE PARENTHOOD; THE BIRTHRIGHT OF EVERY CHILD by Ezekiel Adewale Fatomilola

Femi, the first child of Raymond and Dorcas(Mr and Mrs Daniels) stood in the doorway, watched his parents act drama. His eyes couldn’t leave the two faces as he observed with innocence the people he loved most tore each other apart . The last child of the Union, Anuoluwapo fell to the ground with the shock that took over the woman when she sighted her husband with machete. He rolled on the floor, cried at intervals and clutched the toy in one hand and drew the hem of the mother’s gown with the other hand. The only comfort he received was the shedding of combination of blood and tears from the mother’s battered face. Of course, he didn’t have an idea of the ongoing incident.

Many theories have been advanced to explain the poor state of our nations’ children; child care,absence of both parents, instilling of societal values and eventual output of the child on his or her generation. A factor that has been largely ignored, however, particularly among child and family policymakers, is the prevalence and devastating effects of single or no parents’ presence in children’s lives.
The sad fact is that parents in our society are not supported in the fulfillment of their parental responsibilities, and divorced parents in particular often undermined their responsibilities as parents, and this has reflected in the large numbers of “non- custodial” or “non-residential” parents and of course forcefully removed from their children’s lives, as daily caregivers.
My target of concern is how these lads can enjoy to the fullest Responsible parenthood (Their birthright)from the two people who birthed them and not caregivers .

Have you ever wondered who birthed the toddlers you see selling in holdups? Does it tear your heart apart about the sexual abuse of children of age 5,6 and above in the slum? How about those 4 years old orphans who are house maids? Who do you think made those children who are supposed to be in school learning to be on the streets hawking? No one and nothing else caused these but evasiness of responsibilities by those who birthed them.
One cannot therefore, but ask the pertinent questions: Why are these helpless children out of school, if their parents really cared about their educational development and ultimately their future? Why bring them to an increasingly complex world when they have little or nothing to care to them? Does it not amount to sheer wickedness added to folly that a grown up man would keep breeding more children than he and his wife could adequately cater to, erroneously believing that God would send manna from heaven to feed them?

I think the answer to these rhetorics is that the ever increasing number of children without Fathers and mothers today is due to nothing but the nauseating domination of boys and girls instead of men and women. They had no time to watch their wards grow; to sexually produce them is even easier than ABC.

But is there catholicon to this obnoxious state? Of course there are but before then let’s see the effect of irresponsible parenthood on these children.

Everyday families die globally, some due to infidelity, some workaholism, and others personality clashes. Unfortunately some of these things were in establishment even prior to the oath taking on the altar. While the demand for urgent intervention is high in families with this instability, there is grave concern for rescuing of courtship without focus and relationships without directions among the Unmarried because the consequences are porous if not deadly. For instance, Demo and Acock in 1991 reported that in mother-only families, children tend to experience short-term and long-term economic and psychological disadvantages; higher absentee rates at school, lower levels of education, and higher dropout rates (with boys more negatively affected than girls); and more delinquent activity, including alcohol and drug addiction. Adolescents on the other hand, are more negatively affected by parental discord prior to divorce than by living in single-parent families and actually gain in responsibility as a result of altered family routines. Children in single-mother homes are also more likely to experience health-related problems as a result of the decline in their living standard, including the lack of health insurance according to Mauldin in the year 1990. Also as these children from single-parent families become adults, they are more likely to marry early, have children early, and divorce. These of course are evident among nowadays youth. Girls are at greater risk of becoming single mothers as a result of non-marital childbearing or divorce.

All these psychological implications pose more threats in other areas of lives of the children. For instance, the child develops sense of insecurity, lack of life skills, lack of complete moral upbringing, deprivation of love, sense of mistrust and inferiority.Some wards don’t have a situation of an absent parents, while others share in disadvantages of the excessive reproduction of their parents with little or nothing to cater to them.

Then what is the panacea?
Anyone who looks for marriage must have a degree of maturity. By knowing before-hand that marriage comes with storm and understanding those things that bring marital satisfaction and family oneness. Some have gone out of their way to remain in the marriage unhappy, despite different episodes of physical abuse and yet still move on in the marriage.
There is no doubt that this awareness of some specific factors according to which people could forecast the success or failure of their marriage will help them take notice of their usefulness, in order to achieve a greater level of adjustment. It is true that no one marries with the intention of failing, but the secret of a successful marriage does not lie in luck and there are some basic consideration for each of the spouses.
Marriage, like any social system requires a variety of preparations, such as the ability of the person to be responsible so as to deliver the incredible and achieve the unachievable marital success in order to avoid birthing further handicapping situations.

After all has been said, is there really a catholicon to this scourge? Yes! And this is centered round the parents, since the choice of bringing forth a hero is from them. Below is the suggested way out:

As responsible parents, here are just few things you must know, adhere to and put in place.
1. You must bring your children up in the ways of the Lord.
2. You must give the qualitative education up to university level at least to them.
3. You must provide them all the basic human needs such as food, clothes, shelter, care, advice, money etc. Up to university level and beyond.
4. You must follow them up educationally even as they decide what career to pursue.
5. You must help them choose a career, friend and husband but must never impose any of these on them.
6. You must be their closest friend and best adviser.
7. You must be their role models. They should be proud of you as parents and tend to live their lives the way you lived yours although in an improved form.
8. You must allow them their privacy but proper supervision so that it won’t be abused.

As a parent or potential parent, you might find yourself in the trap of doing otherwise but please try and take cognizance of the above mentioned and try as much as you can to do them.

Finally ,I call on policies makers,and the stakeholders in the family and marriage institutions that devalue the importance of parents in children’s lives, and parental involvement as critical to children’s well-being. Children need both parents, and parents need the support of social institutions in regard to being there for their kids. Happy 2016 Children’s day!!! #OneAfricanChild cares

This is an inspiration from the Holy Sprit through Ezekiel Adewale Fatomilola,campaign manager at FFD Nation, an NGO concerned with helping orphans, fatherless, Motherless, IDPS become useful in the society and deliver the incredible as they simultaneously achieve the unachievable.
Ezekiel is clamouring for societal repositoning through the resurrection of the family institution. …(07066444111 / easycare77@gmail.com)

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‘Read to Lead’ project set to hold in Metamorphosis College, Mowe

OneAfricanChild Foundation partners with Young Protege Leadership Foundation for a reading project in February 

Show me a family of readers, and I will show you the people who move the world” – Napoleon Bonaparte, Emperor of France.
One of the greatest leaders of all time, Napoleon Bonaparte opined that the family of readers is the family of world movers. Readers are individuals who gain knowledge – they use the edge they have discovered on the pages of books to move the world to the next phase in life. Taking the world to the very edge of innovation and creativity at every single opportunity.
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In the spirit of raising world movers, OneAfricanChild Foundation is happy to announce its partnership with Young Protege Leadership Foundation in organising the “Read to Lead” project scheduled for Wednesday, Feb. 5, 2016 at Metamorphosis College, Mowe.

This project is aimed to support literacy and motivate pupils to cultivate a good reading culture. It will bring together primary and secondary school students to learn and get engaged in creative activities which include a reading session, sharing of experience by participants and facilitators and the projection of a motivational video.

At the end of the project, both organisations expect to have inspired the children to take an interest in reading  and see a reason to aspire for the highest educational qualifications.

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As we believe strongly in learning coupled with empowerment, OneAfricanChild Foundation will also be donating some reading materials centred on Global Citizenship Education.
The time for the event is 10 am prompt.
For Partnerships and Sponsorship, please send us a mail via: 1africanchild@gmail.com or contact Abisola Adewale on +234 806 533 6178.

#ONEAFRICANCHILD #Africa #Education #globaleducationconference

Thanks to the dynamism of Victoria Ibiwoye (in the middle… picture below)

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OneAfricanChild (OAC) is getting active throughout the continent. While Training is still on in order to spread the wings of the action for children through OneAfricanChild International Program, the Initiative is still very active.

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One African Child is a partner to The 2014 Global Education Conference starting from November 17 to 22, 2014.
We encourage teachers and students to seize this opportunity to maximise their impact. This is a virtual conference and attendance is totally free!
Visit: http://t.co/5e0Zon9ZcJ for more details.

By Author RAY NDEBI

BEATS OF THE FUTURE

There’s nothing more beautiful than helping children create the world they imagine. This was exactly how we invested our time on June 28, 2014 by creating a colourful word for children.

In partnership with Ivory Connect on their “Market Ibadan Business Festival”,  we organised a cultural festival for about 150 kids from community schools and a foster home. It was an exciting way to involve the community and children.

The theme of the event was tagged “Beats of The Future”. This is because we exist to encourage children to be the pioneers of their dreams; children are important to us! Every growing community needs children; they are indeed the beats of the future we seek.

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Kids present at the event

It was encouraging to see that the kids and their guardians looked forward to the day, thus, their preparation were excellent as well as entertaining.

As we know, a festival isn’t complete without at least few good shows. Our volunteers were actively engaged in featuring exciting activities such as a dance performance, talent contest, a quiz competition, games and much more. There were also free giveaways.

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Kids giving a dance presentation

An invited guest and pioneer of Jumpstart Academy (www.jumpstartacademy.org), Tola Akinsola gave a speech on why education and making the right choice is relevant at this time.  There were other educative talks from our awesome volunteers.
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It was indeed a memorable event! Special thanks to Ivory Connect for giving us such a golden platform to connect children. Also, to Indomie Noodles for their services.

To volunteer with us, send us an email : 1africanchild@gmail.com

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IT IS TIME TO CELEBRATE THE AFRICAN CHILD – JUNE 16

Every 16th June, commemorated as the Day of the African Child brings to remembrance thousands of South African students who participated in the 1976 uprising against poor education and apartheid in Soweto, South Africa, and the continuous awareness of the need to improve the quality of education and learning in Africa.

Dear One AfricanChild members, let us use this day to celebrate the greatness in the African Child.
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I enjoin us to connect the world, using social media to celebrate and share in the significance of this day.

Let’s hashtag #africanchildday #oneafricanchild

Africa is rising and it is great to be part of this sustainable change.

If  you have any article or pictures to share in line with this day, also one that we can share on our blog (www.1africanchild.wordpress.com) please send to javi4luv@yahoo.com.

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MAY 27 – A world of Children and humanity

It is always so beautiful to do something nice for just about anyone. Think about an act of love such as helping an elderly person across the street, giving a little child some sweet candy or even spending quality time with other people doing things we love. That is truly beautiful.

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This past children’s day, OneAfricanChild celebrated the moment with hundreds of children at the Silverbird galleria, Lagos.
It was a fun moment as the organisation had their own stand inside of the galleria alongside other companies such as Lacasera, Chivita, Keystone Bank, Enterprise Bank, One Care, MTN and many others who were all gathered with the motive of ensuring that the kids have an exciting and memorable day.

OneAfricanChild is an organisation established to educate and empower children on the essence of being young and African.

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The activities planned out for children were both fun and educative as there was free face paintings for the kids, a quiz competition and so many give away items.

The moment was not only limited to children having fun, it was also an opportunity to bring to the knowledge of their parents/guardian what difference Oneafricanchild is making in the lives children.
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Their was a brief educative session where children and younger adults got to learn a bit more about Oneafricanchild, about what good we stand to promote as humans, serving humanity.

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There was also an interactive session where we asked what children’s day meant each child. This event was another good opportunity aside our campaign on social media, to lend our voice for the return of the over 200 abducted girls in Borno State, Nigeria. Parents and children alike expressed their feelings towards this situation and spoke in affirmation for the return of these girls to their families.

At OneAfricanChild, we recognise that all children regardless of race, religion or sex are important and deserve the freedom of education and the enjoyment of peace while learning. Our children will learn only what we show them. We must say NO to violence and continue to promote one love and unity.

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OneAfricanChild’s Children’s Day outing was sponsored by Pulse TV, TVC and G-14 Photography.

Many thanks to the management of Silverbird Galleria for the great opportunity to impart.

Special thanks to our celebrity guests. The presence of Skales, Olawale (current winner of MTN project fame) and Mr Nigeria 2014 made the event interesting.
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It was indeed a memorable event. Together, we will do much more for our children!

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ONE AFRICANCHILD SET TO MAKE 2014 CHILDREN’S DAY A MEMORABLE ONE

With the children’s day around the corner, let’s make this another memorable moment for our children.

Join us next Tuesday, May 27, 2014 at the Silverbird Galleria, Victoria island, Lagos.

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Paintings galore, all for FREE

We have our stand in the galleria where we will be painting the faces of kids and sharing gift items, all for free! This is not only so the children can have fun, but that they can see the essence in giving and find meaning in sharing love and happiness.

Let’s make an impact together!

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To volunteer or sponsor the event, send us an email via 1africanchild@gmail.com or call 07038447254, 08029401209

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