Femi, the first child of Raymond and Dorcas(Mr and Mrs Daniels) stood in the doorway, watched his parents act drama. His eyes couldn’t leave the two faces as he observed with innocence the people he loved most tore each other apart . The last child of the Union, Anuoluwapo fell to the ground with the shock that took over the woman when she sighted her husband with machete. He rolled on the floor, cried at intervals and clutched the toy in one hand and drew the hem of the mother’s gown with the other hand. The only comfort he received was the shedding of combination of blood and tears from the mother’s battered face. Of course, he didn’t have an idea of the ongoing incident.

Many theories have been advanced to explain the poor state of our nations’ children; child care,absence of both parents, instilling of societal values and eventual output of the child on his or her generation. A factor that has been largely ignored, however, particularly among child and family policymakers, is the prevalence and devastating effects of single or no parents’ presence in children’s lives.
The sad fact is that parents in our society are not supported in the fulfillment of their parental responsibilities, and divorced parents in particular often undermined their responsibilities as parents, and this has reflected in the large numbers of “non- custodial” or “non-residential” parents and of course forcefully removed from their children’s lives, as daily caregivers.
My target of concern is how these lads can enjoy to the fullest Responsible parenthood (Their birthright)from the two people who birthed them and not caregivers .

Have you ever wondered who birthed the toddlers you see selling in holdups? Does it tear your heart apart about the sexual abuse of children of age 5,6 and above in the slum? How about those 4 years old orphans who are house maids? Who do you think made those children who are supposed to be in school learning to be on the streets hawking? No one and nothing else caused these but evasiness of responsibilities by those who birthed them.
One cannot therefore, but ask the pertinent questions: Why are these helpless children out of school, if their parents really cared about their educational development and ultimately their future? Why bring them to an increasingly complex world when they have little or nothing to care to them? Does it not amount to sheer wickedness added to folly that a grown up man would keep breeding more children than he and his wife could adequately cater to, erroneously believing that God would send manna from heaven to feed them?

I think the answer to these rhetorics is that the ever increasing number of children without Fathers and mothers today is due to nothing but the nauseating domination of boys and girls instead of men and women. They had no time to watch their wards grow; to sexually produce them is even easier than ABC.

But is there catholicon to this obnoxious state? Of course there are but before then let’s see the effect of irresponsible parenthood on these children.

Everyday families die globally, some due to infidelity, some workaholism, and others personality clashes. Unfortunately some of these things were in establishment even prior to the oath taking on the altar. While the demand for urgent intervention is high in families with this instability, there is grave concern for rescuing of courtship without focus and relationships without directions among the Unmarried because the consequences are porous if not deadly. For instance, Demo and Acock in 1991 reported that in mother-only families, children tend to experience short-term and long-term economic and psychological disadvantages; higher absentee rates at school, lower levels of education, and higher dropout rates (with boys more negatively affected than girls); and more delinquent activity, including alcohol and drug addiction. Adolescents on the other hand, are more negatively affected by parental discord prior to divorce than by living in single-parent families and actually gain in responsibility as a result of altered family routines. Children in single-mother homes are also more likely to experience health-related problems as a result of the decline in their living standard, including the lack of health insurance according to Mauldin in the year 1990. Also as these children from single-parent families become adults, they are more likely to marry early, have children early, and divorce. These of course are evident among nowadays youth. Girls are at greater risk of becoming single mothers as a result of non-marital childbearing or divorce.

All these psychological implications pose more threats in other areas of lives of the children. For instance, the child develops sense of insecurity, lack of life skills, lack of complete moral upbringing, deprivation of love, sense of mistrust and inferiority.Some wards don’t have a situation of an absent parents, while others share in disadvantages of the excessive reproduction of their parents with little or nothing to cater to them.

Then what is the panacea?
Anyone who looks for marriage must have a degree of maturity. By knowing before-hand that marriage comes with storm and understanding those things that bring marital satisfaction and family oneness. Some have gone out of their way to remain in the marriage unhappy, despite different episodes of physical abuse and yet still move on in the marriage.
There is no doubt that this awareness of some specific factors according to which people could forecast the success or failure of their marriage will help them take notice of their usefulness, in order to achieve a greater level of adjustment. It is true that no one marries with the intention of failing, but the secret of a successful marriage does not lie in luck and there are some basic consideration for each of the spouses.
Marriage, like any social system requires a variety of preparations, such as the ability of the person to be responsible so as to deliver the incredible and achieve the unachievable marital success in order to avoid birthing further handicapping situations.

After all has been said, is there really a catholicon to this scourge? Yes! And this is centered round the parents, since the choice of bringing forth a hero is from them. Below is the suggested way out:

As responsible parents, here are just few things you must know, adhere to and put in place.
1. You must bring your children up in the ways of the Lord.
2. You must give the qualitative education up to university level at least to them.
3. You must provide them all the basic human needs such as food, clothes, shelter, care, advice, money etc. Up to university level and beyond.
4. You must follow them up educationally even as they decide what career to pursue.
5. You must help them choose a career, friend and husband but must never impose any of these on them.
6. You must be their closest friend and best adviser.
7. You must be their role models. They should be proud of you as parents and tend to live their lives the way you lived yours although in an improved form.
8. You must allow them their privacy but proper supervision so that it won’t be abused.

As a parent or potential parent, you might find yourself in the trap of doing otherwise but please try and take cognizance of the above mentioned and try as much as you can to do them.

Finally ,I call on policies makers,and the stakeholders in the family and marriage institutions that devalue the importance of parents in children’s lives, and parental involvement as critical to children’s well-being. Children need both parents, and parents need the support of social institutions in regard to being there for their kids. Happy 2016 Children’s day!!! #OneAfricanChild cares

This is an inspiration from the Holy Sprit through Ezekiel Adewale Fatomilola,campaign manager at FFD Nation, an NGO concerned with helping orphans, fatherless, Motherless, IDPS become useful in the society and deliver the incredible as they simultaneously achieve the unachievable.
Ezekiel is clamouring for societal repositoning through the resurrection of the family institution. …(07066444111 /


THE VOICE OF AN AFRICAN CHILD #1africanchild #poetry #children #Africa

In the heart of Nigeria, shines a light that was born from the wombs of Mother Africa. The sense of Hope and Faith. That light is called Emmanuel Fada, a young leader and a 17 years old scholar of Jumpstart Academy, Nigeria. He is passionate about Writing and Drama. Emmanuel finds great pleasure in impacting lives of African children and youths. He desires to be an African leader, a resource person and an outstanding movie producer in the near future.

Emmanuel Fada, the vision of a young poet.
Emmanuel Fada, the vision of a young poet.

Emmanuel has a word from his soul, and he decides to share it with your soul. Here he goes:

The Voice of an African Child

I am confused… I am fed up…
How I wish papa could give this a stop
Though Mama tries and so hard
Having us just a meal per day, Oh how sad
For good clothings and shelter, I doubt if we will ever come across
I doubt tide ever helps carry this heavy cross
Well, this is our fate
Is there anything to celebrate?
In the humiliated lives of these eight to grow
Including my very self and the poor widow
We are subject to hate and baits
Seeking for freedom where derision reigns
Oh poor hands of mine, seeing off my sibling
That young life in the bed of sickness shivering
Oh, subconsciously I am echoing out my thoughts
(Sigh) I am not surprised at why Mama thinks a lot
I feel upon us
Poverty is like a curse
And blessing seems hollow nurse
But thanks to papa I learnt to yield grace
And I dug mud and earth for money to be raised
And my heart suffered as my siblings begged for food
When my mind was begging for school
I wait for the course of the wind to change
I hope today is the day before the change

Mama! Mama!
The fire has boiled the herbs well
We can now treat my sister
So that she will be well.

Emmanuel believes in simplicity and justice, and he knows, as a prophecy, that Africa shall rise again and stand strong. His word is a call. Do not listen to him, but listen to your own soul; you shall then understand the need of Africa. The need of a wonderful future for children. 


#IamAfrica crying

Author of THE LAST GHOST: Son Of Struggle
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Member of OneAfricanChild

When people talk about Africa, sharing their own visions and their own thoughts, I try my best to listen and to understand. But however hard I try, I cannot understand. Not because what they say of Africa is worthless or weak in itself… Not because their words are not true… Not because they are not from Africa (even those from Africa are the same to me)… I cannot understand simply because of the eyes of mine I set around me. My heart is deeply in pain. I feel profoundly affected as I go searching for the lights along the street of that Africa.
Only desperation in the eyes of children embraces my soul and I my wounds grow deeper each time I come across frozen lips. On one side of the street, cups and plates are filled up whereas tables are as fertile as imaginations. Laughter burst under the spotlights and excess food fall from those endless but protected tables. But on the other, disasters of wars, bones, faded horizons, tears… That is the result of talking about Africa.
Africa is not a stranger of which a casual story can be told. Africa is not a piece of land. Africa is not a cake as described by History. Africa is not all those frontiers behind which people make themselves kings and queens over the ashes and tears and sweat and blood and hope and thoughts and will of the poor.
_-Africa has been suffering all the hurts and the injustice made possible by humans.
Wars, Famine, Politics, and Secret Societies have generated opportunities for great Nations to take advantage on people and resources of Africa. ALL-FOR-FOOD actions are initiated throughout the Continent and the populations owning the place are empovered while the strangers are empowered. Africa has been devastated and Africa will keep living that bitter struggle as long as Africa remains a notion or a piece of earth at anyone’s disposal. The world has made Africa mere statistics
_pygmee girlAt the time people wonder how they can properly react and bring back its dignity to Africa; our Motherhome becomes a weaker land, and we tend to regret those days when we were still living by nature. In those days when greatness, health, and wealth were not just words or theories. Smiles were true, sons were strong, daughters were proud.
Africa was not a collection of soils behind frontiers. So many families were divided by just one line. Though they still share the same family names and the same tongues, they are fighting each other; they are turning others into enemies and thus serving the interests of indoor and overseas administrators whose own families have one than what they want and need. Caring about people? That reminds me of Michael Jackson singing “All I wanna say is that they don’t really care about us…” When did he realize? I still wonder.
_Politicians have made their Africa a furnace. Freedom is obtained with weapons and all sorts of violence. Bullets respond to smiles. More families are broken and so many mothers are losing their children. The “cake” is not big enough for all; and because it is very tasty, administrators are ready to shed blood, and spread fear and darkness to have the biggest part of it. Terrorism is not only conducted by Al Qaeda or Boko Haram. They are simple instruments indeed. They are just dark minds who have not yet understood the purpose of family. They are just people who are still to understand that whatever they start, they will never see it through. They are just blind people wandering in the darkness of their souls. There are so many positive tasks they can achieve and help build a world with suns that sing and moons that heal, and all that with that strong energy inside of them. Just by turning their incomprehensible and unjustified hatred into the simplest and easiest of all feelings: LOVE!

_yesKwame Nkrumah had a dream called Africa! Nelson Mandela had a dream called Africa! Numbers of leaders gave all they had to make Africa a dream. Egyptians dreamt of a world in which Africa would be the peak. They had everything needed to achieve that goal. They taught the world the basis and fundamentals of what is used, taught, and studied now as Science and Technology. Africa brought its light in the domain of Medicine. The resources of Africa are constantly building up the world. Africa is wealthy but not healthy. Africa is beautiful but pitiful. Because Dreams have been promoted, but fostered to keep that initial form. The number of Organizations involved in development has increased, and the number of crisis has followed. Poverty and misery are getting fat. Villages are left for dead and towns have become jungles in which humans are hunters and preys. “I am afraid of this place. I don’t want to grow up here.” My younger age used to tell me. But I am still here, because there has always been that other small voice telling me, that one day these conditions will change.

OneAfricanChild is the Initiative which made that small voice come alive. Here is the spring of the Future! All the dreams our leaders and heroes had did not go through to come true, because Youth was still a spearhead. We are not at war anymore. We are no longer chasing or hunting something. For all that we search dwell inside each of us. Throwing a spear will not take us to the wonderful future we long to see. Whereas walking together, no matter where we are from, is the only way to touch perfection. USA, Nigeria, Kenya, India, and Cameroon are actively trying their best to put effort and ideas in common for the happiness of the only group of age which is the definition of Africa: CHILDREN. _OAC happy children
Children are the only guarantee of Future! Any action taken without them can only lead to a short-term smile. I am OneAfricanChild, because I am Africa! The major question to be asked is: WHERE DO WE WANT TO GO? The answer may seem very difficult when we start thinking of a suitable one. Yet if we do not think and simply start to go ahead, we will be THERE on time and with all Pride and Dignity!
Nobody can change the world! And even if he was given a year for each human being on Earth, he would hardly change all the members of his own family. People permanently fail to achieve their goals because they want others to reflect their dreams. It is very positive to have thousands of followers, but what are they aiming? Are they following a person pursuing a dream? How long can somebody follow a notion? Will that notion survive after the death of that leader? What if the leader abandons his fight halfway?
_#IamAfrica is a call from each one’s soul. It is the child inside each of us who is urging us to start the change at our own door. If each one makes himself positive, the whole of Africa becomes positive! Africa is us! We are the children! Children are the future! Let us not forget our roots! We are not from the 400 years of Slavery! We are not from the eras of Imperialism! We are not from Apartheid or Racism! WE ARE FROM CHILDHOOD! There is our final destination! A world of happy adults is a plane, whilst the world of happy children is a plain. Adults want to divide, but children want to invite. We are all children; that is why we are just OneAfricanChild. That is why we are Africa!

Let us widely share and spread #IamAfrica. The wonderful life of children depends on us.